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Dealing with the Crash: Post Session Blues

Last Updated (Tuesday, 30 November 1999 00:00) Written by Paratoos Sunday, 29 June 2008 22:55

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You've had a great session, perhaps doing something new or intense. You're floating and smiling, and then the bottom drops out. You're confused, self-conscious, and perhaps even feeling guilty. How can you go from something so good to feeling so down so fast?

 


It's the Crash. Post-session blues. Sub-drop, Top-drop, whatever you want to call it. We mess with our body's chemistry a lot in session. Adrenaline, endorphins, increased heart rate all combine to get us charged up. As our body moves back to our normal rhythmn, it can feel a bit like crashing.

I've *never* had a session where something transpired that merited me feeling guilty or worried that I'd displeased Mistress Ardenne. However, I've had those feelings *after* a session as my body started coming down from the highs she took me to. The key thing is to recognize *why* you're feeling these things. Look at the facts and the evidence. Did something bad actually happen? No? Then you're probably just going through a crash.

Once you've recognized what you're going through, the key is to get some blood sugar going and focus on something POSITIVE. I recommend a nice juice drink, maybe a candy bar, and some good music to get things started. You need to replenish the energy your body just burnt off. Vitamin C is great. And chocolate has those yummy happy feelings inside it. Look back and the session, her posts, her writings to you. Find the positive things she's told you time and time again. Focus on that. Wrap yourself up in those words. Love yourself.

Find someone to talk to if you need. Heck, write me a note. Support is always good during times like this. It doesn't hurt to share these feelings with your friends or your Mistress (just try to be understanding of her time).

 

Personally, I try to be a "big boy" about these feelings, but I'm not above asking for a little help if it gets tough.
And thank you to those who've been there for me during such times.

And if you see someone going through a crash, help 'em out.